When “he” comes to visit you, “he” brings pain. “He” stays much longer than you would prefer. However, there is a potential benefit from the visit. Seek the Lord as to whether this painful visitor was sent by the Lord to bring about repentance or change in some area of your life. 

Similar to childhood, when our parents would introduce something painful to affect our behavior/choices for good – that can be God’s purpose as well. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). 

Hence, my encouragement is when you find yourself in painful circumstances immediately ask the Lord to show you if it is chastening. I always do because if there is something in my life that He wants me to change, I want that understanding as quickly as possible.  

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent” (Revelation 3:19).

“Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby” (Hebrews 12:11).