Category Archives: Dad’s Corner

Don’t be Disappointed 

I was on an errand to the drugstore yesterday. The item was hard to find so I asked a gal who was stocking shelves. She told me exactly were it was located. Then passing by her on my return, I thanked her and said maybe I could help her find something. With a slightly puzzled expression she questioned, “What?” I asked her if she was to die that night would she go to Heaven. She replied “Absolutely!” I then said, “May I ask why you are so confident?” 

“Sure. Because me and Him are super close. I talk to Him all the time.” I asked her a few more questions and didn’t hear answers that lined up with Scripture. She said she had a Bible but hadn’t read it in a while. I gave her a tract and encouraged her to read the tract and the Bible. I talk with so many who have what seems to be a false confidence. 

“And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it” (Matthew 7:26-27).

I’m not aware of any place in Scripture that says by merely talking to God you are saved. However verses like this one are indicative of salvation. “He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him” (John 3:36).

Dads, I plead with you. Make sure you don’t have a false hope. Have you repented of your sin? Have you trusted in His death on the cross for total payment for your sin? Read His Word every morning. Believe what you read. Follow Him obediently. If you do, you will grow in sanctification, more like the Son and less like the world. 

Doesn’t Make Sense

Why would someone choose to do something that is harmful to himself? Certainly we can understand if someone like the demoniac, who had an evil spirit, was injuring himself. “And always, night and day, he was in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones” (Mark 5:5). 

Self harm isn’t supposed to be normal behavior. “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it,” (Ephesians 5:29a). For us the problem is when we think we are doing something good for our flesh (meaning what the flesh wants), and it is, in actuality, not good for us. Often we do know in the back of our minds, it is harmful, but we want it anyway. 

What “self” do we love and are we listening to – the new man in Christ or the old man of the flesh? Whatever man we love the most is the one we feed the most. The one we feed the most is the one who is stronger and “wins.” Clearly the demoniac had no new man and hence only did what his demon-controlled, sinful nature led him to.  

Desires Feeding

Christ-led new man, Time in the Word, Sharing Christ, Praying, Worshipping with the brethren, Discipling your children

The old man, Watching TV, Watching the world’s movies, Watching sports, Partying/drinking, Watching children in sports

My Brothers, what “man” are you feeding and hence is the one making the decisions in your life? Be Christ-led. 

Jesus said, “….Take heed what ye hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you: and unto you that hear shall more be given” (Mark 4:24).

“That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. (Ephesians 4:22-24).

Forgotten

Bobby is the picture-perfect definition of a good ole boy with a southern accent to boot. What a great guy. He’s happy, laughs a lot, and I’ve never seen him angry. He is so grateful for his upbringing. It seems like every conversation we have he says, “My daddy told me…..” Then he shares some “word of wisdom” that his dad told him growing up. He is very honoring of his dad.

Oh to remember our past and give proper honor to it. A sad opposite example is a Kansas City hospital which bears the name of a writer of one of the gospels. Their monthly magazine came which promotes health and the medical services they offer. That month they described the creation of the world in mystical, evolutionary terms. I was horrified. Frankly, I can’t imagine how any doctor with his studies of the human body could not be a committed believer. The wisdom that it took to design the body is staggering and simply impossible that it happened by chance.  “Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools” (Romans 1:22).

“Thus saith the LORD, What iniquity have your fathers found in me, that they are gone far from me, and have walked after vanity, and are become vain?”(Jeremiah 2:5). 

I pray you are in the Word yourself every morning and leading your family in the Word every night. Give God the glory in all you do with your family. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard “Our children love watching nature and science documentaries.” They may be entertaining, but I would be confident if it is on TV it is evolutionary. Consider all the damage that it is doing to a child’s mind. 

“And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up” (Deuteronomy 6:5-7). 

It’s That Time Again

Flags are flying. Yards signs are out. There is a buzz in the air. Everyone is talking about it. “Did you see the game? Wasn’t it incredible?” FootBaal season has begun. Life once again has something that makes it worth living for many (most?) men and boys. Some churches don’t even have Sunday night services anymore because the men don’t come during football season and certainly not on Super Bowl Sunday. 

Is it the excitement in watching men trying to crush each other, or perhaps the sensuously clothed cheerleaders wiggling their bodies? Or maybe it is the dazzling beer commercials? (There is a reason why breweries spend millions of dollars a year advertising their products – it works!) Or maybe men grew up watching football for hours on end with their dads, and now that is equated with real manhood. Whatever it is, men are, dare I say, addicted to something that steals countless hours from God’s kingdom. (Jesus owns us.)

“Forasmuch as ye know that ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as silver and gold, from your vain conversation received by tradition from your fathers; But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot” (1 Peter 1:18-19). 

Do Christian men have nothing that would be pleasing to the Lord that is a better use of their time? The world gives you thrills and excitement, but things of the Lord yield eternal fruit and joy that comes with a very different kind of excitement. “Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen” (1 John 5:21).

“I am the LORD thy God, which brought thee out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage. Thou shalt have none other gods before me” (Deuteronomy 5:6-7).

If you aren’t convinced, another question. Would you invite Jesus to sit down with you and watch a game? I hope each would say, “NO, I COULDN’T DO THAT.” However, if He did sit with you, I believe the Lord would weep.

Examine the fruit from footBaal. Does it draw you closer to your Lord and the fruit of the Spirit. Or might it actually be feeding your flesh? Is it building up your family in the Lord or casting stumbling blocks for your children? Read Matthew 18:6 carefully.

P.S. If footBaal is a passion of yours, and you still cling to it and think it would be good for me to embrace as well, please write and convince me. 

Not What But Who

In my previous years of corporate work, I often heard, “It isn’t what you know but who you know.” They weren’t promoting ignorance in our vocation but emphasizing the importance of business relationships. This has quite a correlation to the spiritual. 

Frequently I engage someone spiritually, and they say they believe Jesus is the Son of God. However, in speaking with them, it becomes obvious that they have never repented of their sin and surrendered to Him. Meaning they really don’t have a relationship with Him, but they know about HIm. Hence Jesus doesn’t know them either. To hear Jesus say, “Depart from Me. I never knew you,” is the worst news anyone could ever hear.

“Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity” (Matthew 7:22-23).

Oh, my Brothers, we live for Him Who died for us. May we draw closer to Him.

“For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:20).

Also, many are trusting in a religion which will yield disappointment. No religion died for you.

Also, many are trusting in themselves as being a good person. Again, disappointment headed their way. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23).

Newly Unweds

We met a sweet, young family with two cute littles a couple of years ago on our walking route when they were doing yard work. We loved seeing them in their happiness functioning as a family. Then, this spring we noticed there were no cars in the drive, the yard wasn’t being mowed, and there were no signs of life. We suspected the worst and asked their neighbor who was doing yard work, if he knew whether they were okay. He grimaced and shook his head “No.” 

Over time we observed furnishings, miscellaneous items, children’s toys, and books at the end of the drive for the taking. We stopped to look through the books in case we could use them with our grandkids. No way! There were little kiddos story books with dragons, witches, and magic. How sad to be filling the minds of children with such evil. It was an indication that the Lord Jesus likely had no place in that home, which is now up for sale. 

My brothers, we can’t expect the world not to fill their children’s minds with evil. But may it never be that anyone who names the name of Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior would ever allow such evil things in their homes and certainly not around their children. Sadly, I’m confident that many believers consider these harmless children’s books, not putting up any safeguards to protect their children against them. Have they not read the Word? 

“Ye that love the LORD, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked” (Psalms 97:10). There is no such thing as innocent evil. I plead with you. Cleanse your homes of anything evil. 

“But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy” (1 Peter 1:15-16).

Also, make no assumptions about your marriage. Nurture it. Love and cherish your wife as a gift from God. She is. 

Help

He was sitting on the back row of the church near the aisle and obviously not a member. Half the people in church at that moment had already walked by him, yet there he sat in silence. I dropped into the seat beside him and briefly got to know him. Later he told me how grateful he was that I took interest and spoke with him that day. That is an example of why Teri and I go to church early and seek out people who are new, alone, or simply look needy for someone to talk to. It is not an official role but a passion from the heart.

When I’m out and about, I’m always looking for people to engage. The grocery store, gas station, or Walmart are great places to go fishing. It is easy to begin a conversation, and I love to do it. Why?

“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.  And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:30-31).

Yet, from my experience with many believers, they are reluctant to engage people they don’t know. Consider you are walking in a park by a lake and hear someone crying out for help and see them thrashing about in the water. Wouldn’t you do everything you could to help them? What if you didn’t know them? Would you be embarrassed to help them? Of course not. The problem is that most people on their way to hell don’t know it. If they did, they’d be screaming for help. We must see people we don’t know as if they were calling for help.

Let God’s command to love our neighbor and then seeing them headed for hell motivate us to reach out to everyone we can.

“…he that winneth souls is wise” (Proverbs 11:30b).

“Now then we are ambassadors for Christ …” (2 Corinthians 5:20a).

Maybe Great for Showers

People have many names for it, but whatever the name, it brings back awful memories. No one likes it except dogs. Even the Lord Jesus used it as an example of great disgust. Vomit. What was so distasteful to our Lord that He used such a horrific metaphor? It was those who are lukewarm in their faith. 

“I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth” (Revelation 3:15-16).

Might the Lord refer to the the current church (in general) as lukewarm? “Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked” (Revelation 3:17).

Christianity has been vaporizing in our “post-Christian” era country. How could that be? Life with Jesus Christ is the most precious thing in all the world. Yet like the rich young ruler, other things are more important (Luke 18:18-24).

We love what we fill our minds with, and that is what our heart becomes. “Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing” (John 15:4-5). Oh my brothers, abide in Christ.

“For every tree is known by his own fruit. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh” (Luke 6:44-45).

Eyes, ears => into the mind => into the heart => deeds/fruit

Awkward

I’m guessing most have experienced something similar to the following scenario. You are out with your child and meet someone. You greet them and desire that your child look at them, smile, and greet them. Instead, your child stares at the ground. Embarrassed, you try to coax your child by offering a few sample words to get them started. Sigh. That doesn’t work either. 

There are few people who aren’t afraid to talk to others, and perhaps even fewer who actually enjoy it. Then there are some who enjoy it, but all they do is talk about themselves. Most aren’t born good communicators. The world desperately needs them. When sharing our faith, it is huge. In almost every vocation the good communicator excels. Between husband and wife and parents with their children, communication is the breath of life. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Proverbs 25:11).

Make it a family project to become good communicators. You will be blessed greatly, you’ll bless others, and your children will have a needed skill in being ambassadors. Watch your children’s confidence grow. For help : Making Great Conversationists. 

“Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God” (2 Corinthians 5:20).

Seen or Viewed

Teri and I were on our normal walk when we heard a cheerful “Hello” behind us. A car was stopped at the stop sign with the window rolled down. It took a moment for me to recognize the man even though I have known him quite a while. I happily returned the greeting as I turned to walk over to him. 

My friend had lost significant weight and didn’t look healthy. As I approached him, I said how good it was to see him. He replied, “It is better to be seen than viewed.” I got his humor as he is dying of cancer and likely will only live a few more months before he is in a casket for viewing. 

He is a heartbreak for us. We have known him for several years and been able to develop a friendship. One day about three months ago, he told us that he was just diagnosed with terminal cancer. I asked if I could come over and talk with him further, and he agreed. 

 I arranged a time to visit, and was soon sitting in his living room. I gave my testimony of Who Jesus is and what He has done in my life. As I began sharing the Gospel, I hit a roadblock. This God blaspheming person defiantly said he WAS going to heaven because he was a good person and he didn’t need Jesus. We cordially wound down the discussion, and I left he and his wife with a Good Person tract. They said they would read and discuss it. 

With a heavy heart, I continue to pray while the clock counts down. Thankfully we have  maintained our friendship as demonstrated by his calling me over at the stop sign to talk. “But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost: In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them” (2 Corinthians 4:3-4).

Oh my brothers, get to know your neighbors, love them, and seek opportunities to share our glorious Lord and salvation with them. You won’t regret it. However, if you don’t, you will have regrets.