March 2022 Mom’s Corner

Are You a Dripping Woman?

Scripture presents us with quite a contrast between a contentious, dripping wife and a virtuous one whose husband praises her. It also tells us this: “Every wise woman buildeth her house:

but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1). My heart is to be the helpmeet to my husband, Steve, where I am building my house and he would want to call me “blessed.”

Here we see contention and dripping:

“. . . the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping”(Proverbs 19:13).

“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike” (Proverbs 27:15).

Have you ever considered what you might do that would be contentious like the annoying drip, drip, drip of water? Dripping isn’t outright bad, is it? Isn’t it more of an irritation? Perhaps you are aware of some things in your life that are similar to dripping, and maybe you should ask your husband if there are others. Wouldn’t you like to work on getting rid of them?

Drip, Drip, Drip . . . Answering for Another

I didn’t ask Steve about my dripping, but recently I discovered one of mine. I answer for Steve instead of letting him answer for himself. I didn’t even realize I did that until he mentioned it in connection with something else. He is gracious enough to be quiet about it when it happens. In our discussion, it was obvious he didn’t appreciate it and that I do it rather frequently. Drip, drip, drip. He is very capable of answering for himself! I might try to justify answering for Steve by saying I am being a helpmeet. But the reality is that I don’t always know the answer he would give, and if he doesn’t view it as being a helpmeet, it certainly isn’t.

Drip, Drip, Drip . . . Critical Spirit

From my past, I can share a few more you might consider. What about being critical of what he does or how he does it? The critical, contentious wife points out the negative rather than focusing on the positive. I remember one time Steve saying to me, “I don’t know that I can do anything to please you.” That came because he would work to improve in one area I had criticized him about only to be faced with a new one. Drip, drip, drip. That is a discouraging way to live.

Drip, Drip, Drip . . . Correcting

Then there is correcting your husband. How often does he not have the details right in something he is talking about, and you step in to fix it? Drip, drip, drip. We justify this one by thinking it is important to have things accurate. In the end, it comes out more as pride. I have it right. He has it wrong. I watch men clam up and give the conversation to their wives rather than continue on with her correcting of him.

Drip, Drip, Drip . . . The Better Idea

My third one is having better ideas. When Steve presented an idea, if I agreed with it, I had a way to improve on it rather than just jumping in with enthusiasm to go with it. And of course, if I disagreed, it spoke that right out as well. In the normal course of husband and wife communication, that will be part of it, but when it is the habit, it can be drip, drip, drip. Steve felt blessed when I could agree with him and join in a plan without having to change it to what I wanted.

This is the godly wife:

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:10-12).

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (Proverbs 31:28).

Dry up the Drip

I expect if you are a wife, you would like to be a virtuous woman whose husband blesses and praises her. Do you have any of these drippings that might move you away from that? Are there other drippings that you are aware of?

Could I challenge you to evaluate if there is any dripping going on in your life and then ask the Lord for His grace and strength to dry them up? If you aren’t a wife, these same things can apply to any relationship.
If you would like more encouragement and challenge on being a godly wife, you might be interested in My Delight – a book for Christian wives.

Trusting Jesus,
Teri Maxwell