Recently, Teri and I were surprised when two of our boys did not seem to recognize something as sin. To us it was black and white, but they just couldn’t see it. How could that be? They had been taught the right things, yet their conclusion was wrong.
Last week God revealed what had happened. He convicted me that there was an area in my life of significant compromise. I couldn’t believe I had not seen it sooner, but God used a situation and a verse I had just read in my devotion to point it out. Then it was as if a giant spotlight was focused on it, and all doubt was removed. Ugh, I now had to deal with the situation.
While working to set right this area of deceit, I thought about Exodus 20:5, “Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me.” When I looked up “visiting,” it seemed to carry more than just the consequences of the sin, but the sin itself. When I rebel against God by choosing sin, I open the door for my children to embrace this sin as well. Now my secret sin is not so secret. Unfortunately, I have seen this demonstrated clearly in our family more times than I wish to think about.
As a way of getting our attention, God allows our sin to be visible in the lives of our children. How this gets my attention! I dislike the sin in my life so much, and then, when confronted with it in my children’s lives, it can be almost unbearable. What a gracious God we serve in that He will do whatever is necessary to prod us away from our sin.
How about you? What sins in your children are particularly annoying to you? Could it be that they are reflecting a sin in your life that hasn’t been dealt with? I have found it is extremely difficult to remove the sin from the life of my child before I have addressed it in my life.
1 Corinthians 11:28, “But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup.”